What It Looks Like
A leader keeps re-explaining the same task, process, or expectation—hoping others will eventually understand.
The repetition drains her energy and disempowers the team.
After the Behavior is Integrated
She shows it once—clearly, calmly, completely.
Then steps back. Trusts the learning. Holds the standard.
Behavioral Impact
Strengthens self-leadership across the team
Removes over-functioning from leadership
Increases clarity in both task and tone
Contributing Factors (Unconscious Causes)
Fear of being misunderstood
Lack of trust in others’ capability
Habitual over-support
Underlying Need
To be effective without being over-involved
To build capability, not dependency
To conserve leadership energy for higher-value work
Common Triggers / Distortions
Team hesitancy
Cultural underperformance
Guilt around letting others fail
Remedy & Best Practices
Prepare the demonstration once with full clarity
Hand over with clean tone, not anxiety
Follow up only when necessary, not by default
Ripple Outcomes (What Changes)
Team rises to meet the standard
Leadership becomes less reactive
Culture of initiative replaces dependence
Guiding Insight
Show them once with clarity. Then let the clarity do its work.
