What It Looks Like:
A leader always leads with energy, ideas, and authority. The team is impressed—but doesn’t step forward.
After the Behavior is Integrated:
The leader enters the room differently. Listens more than speaks. The team rises. Others lead too.
Behavioral Impact:
- Frees others to lead: Creates space for team members to take initiative.
- Shifts from performance to resonance: Leadership becomes about connection, not control.
- Builds long-term presence: Establishes a leadership style that fosters growth and sustainability.
Contributing Factors:
- Need to “prove” leadership: Feeling the need to constantly demonstrate authority.
- Habit of being the loudest anchor: Defaulting to always steering conversations or decisions.
- Fear of losing influence: Worry that stepping back will diminish authority.
Underlying Need:
- To be valuable without always doing: Recognize worth beyond constant action.
- To hold space without filling it: Allow room for others to contribute meaningfully.
- To let leadership be distributed: Share responsibility and empower the team.
Distortions/Triggers:
- Silence after speaking: Discomfort with pauses or lack of immediate feedback.
- Team hesitancy: Interpreting hesitation as a lack of confidence or capability.
- Feeling unseen unless active: Equating visibility with effectiveness.
Remedy & Best Practices:
- Speak only when grounded: Ensure contributions are thoughtful and purposeful.
- Let others initiate direction: Encourage team members to take the lead.
- Practice stillness as contribution: Use presence and observation as forms of leadership.
Ripple Outcomes:
- Team initiative increases: Members feel empowered to step up and lead.
- Culture flattens, then deepens: Hierarchies dissolve, fostering stronger collaboration.
- Power becomes shared: Leadership is distributed, strengthening the team as a whole.
Guiding Insight:
The strongest presence doesn’t take the room—it gives it back.
