What It Looks Like:
A leader commands the space—clear, loud, present—but their need to be “right” is palpable. Others shrink. Dialogue disappears. Real thinking stops.
After the Behavior is Integrated:
He holds the space—calm, grounded, without self-importance. He guides without control. Presence deepens. Ideas flow.
“Don’t just speak about what happened—speak to what it means.”
Behavioral Impact:
- Builds collective wisdom: Encourages shared insights and deeper understanding.
- Elevates trust in shared power: Fosters confidence in the collaborative process.
- Dissolves ego-based reactivity: Reduces tension caused by the need to dominate discussions.
Contributing Factors (Unconscious Causes):
- Identity tied to expertise or control: Associating leadership with always being the smartest or most authoritative voice.
- Past reward for being the sharpest voice: Habit of receiving validation for commanding attention.
- Fear of losing authority if others lead: Anxiety about sharing control or influence.
Underlying Need:
- To lead without overshadowing: Guide the team while allowing others to shine.
- To trust others’ intelligence: Believe in the team’s ability to contribute meaningfully.
- To make space for collaborative greatness: Create an environment where collective brilliance thrives.
Common Triggers / Distortions:
- Resistance or challenge: Feeling the need to prove oneself when faced with opposition.
- Spotlight moments: Pressure to perform or dominate in high-visibility situations.
- Uncertainty in the room: Discomfort with ambiguity or lack of clear direction.
Remedy & Best Practices:
- Lead with presence, not positioning: Focus on being grounded and open rather than asserting dominance.
- Ask instead of asserting: Encourage dialogue by posing questions rather than making statements.
- Let silence invite contribution: Use pauses to create space for others to share their ideas.
Ripple Outcomes (What Changes):
- Team begins co-leading: Members feel empowered to take initiative and share responsibility.
- Psychological safety rises: Teams feel secure to express themselves without fear of judgment.
- Leadership tone becomes elegant and expansive: Authority is felt through calm presence rather than control.
Guiding Insight:
True presence holds the room—without needing to hold the crown.
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